Don’t Get Tangled in Lies
Let’s be honest here, we all tell lies, some more than others. But, did you know that the more you lie the more you have to lie? And those lies turn into even more lies! Usually when someone lies, they have to back up that lie with another lie to make it seem as if it was the truth. However, you can never turn a lie into a truth. I know the whole concept is confusing because I said the word “lie” a thousand times (that itself is a lie because so far I’ve only said “lie” 11 times, see what I did there?) The point I’m trying to make here is lying gets you nowhere, because in the end, we all have to come clean. Sometimes we lie without even realizing it and sometimes we are just too scared to tell the truth. There is an interesting concept called “Radical Honesty” that states that if people stopped telling lies, life would be better for everyone. Lying is a bad habit in general, so if you want to quit this habit and live a salubrious life, then follow these tips (by Richmond Therapy non-clinical staff writer).
1) Learn the consequences of lying
Statistics show that 12% of adults admit to telling lies often, 80% of women admit to occasionally lying, 13 percent of patients admit to lying to their doctor, and 30% of people lied about their diet and exercise routines. These may seem like small percentages, but you have to realize that a small percentage of millions of people is a big number. With that in mind, pay attention to the statistics regarding lying to doctors and lying about exercise and diet. Although a lie may start off as something small, it could progress into something more serious. The people that lied to their doctors and about their diet and exercise are putting their own health at risk. With this in mind, we see that harmful lies evolve from harmless lies.
2) Quit early, before it’s too late
For those of you who are parents, to give your children better lives, teach them about the true value of honesty. Children’s brains are still developing so whatever you teach them at a young age will stay with them forever. For instance, if a parent spoils their kids, they grow up spoiled, simple as that. All kids lie, so it’s important to set a few guidelines or rules that will keep the kid from lying. For instance, if a kid tells a lie, take away their toys, put them in time out, give them a slight spanking, do whatever you can to keep them from lying. Remember, it’s for their own good.
3) The Double C’s (Catch and Confess)
Whenever you catch yourself lying, immediately confess to whomever you are lying to. The more you do this, the more likely you are to stop lying, since you will grow sick of confessing. Whenever you confess, be very honest and open about it. Sometimes, what gets us to lie is the fear of offending others. If no offense exists, then no lie exists. So if you ever catch yourself lying, immediately confess and tell the truth without hurting the other person’s feelings; the other person will respect you more for that.
4) Be kind when being honest
There is a difference between telling the truth and abruptly being honest. If someone asks you how their shirt looks and you think it looks bad, make sure to let them know nicely. Instead of saying, “It looks bad on you,” say, “It’s not your style.” Remember, let them know nicely. Now let’s take the same situation, but instead, let’s say the person never asked you how their shirt looked. If this is the case, then don’t just abruptly tell them it looks bad. If someone doesn’t ask for your opinion about something, let them be. If you feel like being honest to someone would hurt their feelings, be as gentle as possible when telling the truth.
For some, Radical Honesty may be key to living a better life. It doesn’t take money to be radically honest; all it takes is a lot of commitment to the truth. Of course, you can’t avoid lying forever, but the more you learn to control yourself, the less you will lie in the long run.
If you are someone who tends to lie a lot, just remember, learn the consequences of lying (lying only gets you into more trouble), try to avoid lying as early in life as possible (if you have kids, teach them to be honest), if you ever catch yourself lying make sure to confess (the more you confess about lying the less you’ll want to lie), and finally, be kind when being honest (tell the truth, but don’t let it hurt someone personally).
Always always always remember, the less you lie, the happier you’ll be.